Accurately Me
In 2013 I started a blog. Created via weebly, the blog features my thoughts and opinions about a diverse amount of topics. I do love blogging, but one blog wasn't enough. I had to spread the love so I started a second dedicated to restaurant food reviews! By clicking the picture to the left you'll be taken Accurately Me. My blog via Blogher deals primarily with all things women. ENJOY!!
So, not only am I a writer I rediscovered that I'm also a gambler. Sat by and watched my cousin hit 2000 on the Wheel Of Fortune slots yesterday. Was extremely happy for her until my coins started dissapearing....needless to say I grew salty. Still happy for her but a girl would've loved to have hit that BIG MONEY.
At the last Long Island Pitchapalooza held at Book Revue in Huntington, I had the pleasure of pitching my book. It was an awe inspiring experience that helped me attack my fear of speaking in public. In addition, it was the catalyst that enabled me to finish my book. Today, i'm working on my book proposal with the hopes of being published at some point. If you would like to read the article, click on the picture. PS...that's my hand in the top left corner of the cover, right under the words LI life :-) THROWBACK BLOG POST
2008 We all have a year or years that we look back on fondly or even with sadness. We have years that we may consider a transformational year or a year that was pivotal to the person we are today. 2008, was that year for me. When I sit back and reminisce with my family or my friends or simply sit with myself and think I inevitably go back to that year. It was a year that began simple enough, but by the end was one I couldn't wait to be over. Today, 5 years later I realize that 2008 helped shaped the person I am today. My earliest memory of that year is sitting in the dining room eating and playing cards with my aunt, uncle, cousins and grandmother Blanche. The Superbowl was on and the Giants were playing the patriots. They won that day and it was one of the most exciting games I had watched in quite some time. From heartstopping plays by David Tyree and Plaxico Burress to Eli Manning and that defensive line we were all in. We started that year off as a family who loved playing and watching games and being around one another and ended with a quick and sudden reminder of how blessed we were to like each other and get along. Throughout the year, we would continue to willingly spend time together. That summer we got together and gave my aunt a 50th surprise party at my best friends house. Everyone invited didn’t show up but the ones that did brought a smile across my aunts face that I had never seen before. It was a great day of family and friends and another memory from 2008 that I reflect on and think about often. That same year I ended a friendship with one of my closest friends. In hindsight, I believe that I was in a rough place emotionally. I was working at a job I hated and ultimately got laid off. Forced in a lot of ways to live with my best friend I took on a frustrated and angry persona that spilled over into many of my relationships including one with my friend. I said things to her that were out of my character. In fact, my relationships with many of my friends began to falter leading up to that year and by the time 2008 hit I was down to a handful. It’s funny because at the end of the day “I’d rather have 4 quarters than 100 pennies”. Living with my best friend and her husband was unique. I was grateful to have a roof over my head but I was met with resistance. Resistance that I mostly put on myself. For the three years that I had lived there, I constantly questioned whether I was getting in the way, helping out enough and overstaying my welcome. I was driving myself crazy and over thinking everything. By 2008, I had become damn near depressed. My heart was still recovering from my broken engagement, I was unemployed, no longer friends with one my closest friends and constantly feeling inadequate. By the end of the summer, things began to shift. I had 8 interviews with a company that ultimately ended up with me being hired as a Field Sales Consultant for Henry Schein. Once I was hired in September I was to complete a 3 week training session in Wisconsin. Those three weeks as brutal and homesick as I was gave me a lot of time to think. I realized that it was time for me to set some goals including finding my own place. And I did. By November 1st I was moved out of my best friends home and firmly implanted in my own home near my family and close to the water. I felt so great. I felt renewed. Two weeks later, my grandmother died. My heart, the center of my family suddenly gone was the second most devastating loss in my life. I think about her everyday and sometimes question God as to why then, why at all. When she died I truly felt that my family would dissipate. She was the glue and I couldn’t imagine life would be the same without her. It definitely wasn’t the same, but her death showed me that yes she was the center piece that held us together. Yes, she may not be here in the physical presence but she remains that center that keeps us together. Planning her funeral, my family came together. There were no arguments over money, over her possessions or over her house. Everyone came into agreement and to this day, I admire my aunt and uncles and I know that she left us but we are still us. 2008, saw many highs and lows and ups and downs. That year showed me that I could stand on my own. That year showed me that because I was laid off didn’t mean I wouldn’t bounce back. That year tested my friendship with my best friend. That year made me realize just how much I love my family in good times and in bad. That year showed me that life is about growth it’s about learning, it’s about loving and it’s about being able to reflect on the things that make you better and figuring out a way to spread that knowledge to others in grand and simple ways. Five years ago I was a different person. To get to this side I had to experience deep loss, high gains and an overwhelming feeling of love. 2008 was my year. Even when I'm sad and feel like nothing can help, praying at my favorite spot brings me up. What, where and/or who gets you through?
We've been through a lot, and yet here we stand. I love my mother and I'm so blessed to be able to look back on our history and know what perseverance, resilience, patience and love is.
Grateful!!! THROWBACK POST
I wrote this back on 8/5/13, what a difference two years makes. YANKEES Sitting here watching the Yankees lose to Chicage 0-7 and decided to write the following blog entry....THE MOST HATED MAN IN AMERICA! No, not Anthony Weiner the guy who exposed his errr umm weiner. No, not that guy Paul Marquez who tried to sell his girlfriends daughter on Craigslist. No, not Darnell Barden who unleashed his pitbull on other dogs in a neighborhood park urging him to attack. No, not Athanasios (Tommy) Kakouras who held his girlfriend and father hostage. Nope, I’m talking about Alex Rodriguez aka A-Rod folks. You’ve heard of him right? The guy who in 2009 admitted to using steroids. The guy who just today got suspended 211 games for again doping. The guy who it seems everyone in New York and probably the country despises. The guy who has not said whether or not the allegations against him were true but vowed to appeal his sentence. The guy who tonight suited up for the Yankees for the first time in almost a year. The seemingly most hated person in New York. What is it about our society that allows us to throw such intense feelings of disgust on someone? Someone we don’t know? Someone who yeah cheated in the past and probably cheated again but didn’t kill anyone? Someone who didn’t hold people hostage? Someone who didn’t order his animal to attack another? Someone who for all intents and purposes was a bonehead who because of his insecurity, narcissism and ego made the choice to thumb his nose at MLB, the Yankee organization, his teammates and his fans? Why do we constantly sit in judgment and scrutinize the actions and/or lack thereof that our sports leaders exhibit? My timeline on my social medial accounts were inundated with comment after comment about the character of A-Rod. Comments, that it would seem stemmed more from media information rather than facts. Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m not here trying to defend the man. If he did indeed use steroids again and attempt to destroy evidence linking him to Biogenesis of America then he deserves the ban handed down by MLB. Like any company including the one I work for and the one you may work for, when you choose to go against the rules set forth by your organization, you have to suffer the consequences. Does this mean you should be left to suffer a slow and painful attack with the end result leading you to a life filled with hateful jargon, ridicule and the inability to walk the streets? I would hate to think that along with losing my job, I would lose my ability to not be judged by any and everyone I would hate to think that people would hit below the belt and say I’m ugly inside and out, that when I try to apologize I sound insincere (especially by those who don’t know me). I would hate to read tweets criticizing everything about me that had nothing to do with the issue that got me fired and fined. A-Rod, is appealing his sentence and will find out the ultimate decision in arbitration. He’s not going to jail. The FBI isn’t going to put him on America’s Most Wanted. He violated baseball rules and he will deal with whatever the league and lawyers deem the most acceptable resolution. When that happens I’m sure ESPN analysts, Yes Network analysts, Fox Sports analysts, Newspaper columnists, fans of the sport and people who just like to talk, will have a lot to say about A-Rod. Will it be about what he did, or will it be about him and his character? Probably the latter. Whatever the case is, the fact remains that his judge and jury are not us. His judge and jury will be the person (s) who make the decision in arbitration. End of story. How about we focus all of this negative energy on people who actually made choices that resulted in the death of our children, the safety of our neighbors and the welfare of our communities? Do we really want to make Alex Rodriguez the posterboy for the most hated man in New York? Anyone that follows me on social media knows that I love to share my blog posts. I once tweeted about the OWN networks' show "The Haves and the Have Nots". My review of the series wasn't very complimentary, but it caught the eye of Oprah who tweeted me. Pretty awesome moment for me
:-) The Yep Yeah YEs PodcastIn 2018, I started a podcast entitled Yep Yeah Yes, with my friend Marisa. We decided hey our conversations are what the kids call...lit lol so lets record them for the world to hear. Never did I think that I'd end up being so vulnerable and open with my feelings and thoughts. So far we've touched on everything from the METOO movement to Infertility Awareness, to Political Correctness and the NFL. Yes....damn near everything. Go to the link section to learn more.
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